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Society conforms what the norm is and isn’t. It has made each of us, boys and girls, to develop into social beings needing of one special person, of the opposite sex. Today, this includes the same sex too, and it might be more prevalent now because of better acceptance.

There are billions of people out there. If we cut down to the sexes, and the extreme age groups, we would be left with millions of people to ‘select’ from. Considering the distance between continents and countries has virtually been shortened, the possibilities are again increased, or decreased significantly. Then, calculating the factors which restrict our socializing skills such as time, work, and opportunities, we might be left with thousands.

So, how do you know if the one you’re going to be with, or currently with, will be the right one? There are so many nice, kind hearted people out there. There are so many guys and girls who have qualities and distinctions of being a loved one. The long-standing hypothesis about meeting people is that it is all about timing. You need the right timing.

That said, so what if you got one of the right person at the right time? You would still experience ‘time’ with this particular person, and time is an evolving matter. What if you realize, with time, that there are things about this right person who does not seem too right? Would you look at the ‘right’ aspects and feel reassured and comfortable? Or would you find yourself wondering and confused that certain ‘rights’ do not make things all right?

No matter how many rights there can be, some wrong things are definite. And perhaps, that should be a diagnosis of exclusion. We are individuals first and foremost. We have our beliefs and principles. These may come from our upbringing, and the experience we gain, with time.

If you find yourself in a difficult position, not being able to accept certain wrongdoings, you need to be strong and ask yourself if you are able to recover from them. If it is chronic, recurrent or with no remission, it will lead to permanent scarring. Thenceforth, the prognosis is poor. It is like having a disease, but with a major difference. You can suffer from it for a long time, and eventually succumb to it. The major difference here is that you can choose to have the ‘disease’ or to be free from it and recover.

Perhaps the next person, at the right time, will be like an enzyme, creating a catalytic reaction.

Afterall, we are organisms. Just at a very much more macrocytic level.